57. Life is 50:50
Where in your life right now are you resisting your emotional experience? Where do you wish your circumstances were different? So many of us know that life can’t always be 100% happy, yet still unconsciously strive for 100% happiness, and resist “negative” emotions. But one of the most beautiful gifts in life is being able to feel the depths of all emotions.
One of the greatest truths in life is that life is 50:50 and there is so much beauty in fully embracing and accepting the human condition in its entirety. So why do so many of us still try to resist the “negative” parts of life?
Join me this week as I show you why life is always 50:50 and how acknowledging this enables you to be fully present in the human experience of life. Discover what can happen when you accept that life will always have negatives as well as positives and why accepting this truth can help you reclaim your power and completely change your life.
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What You Will Discover:
The importance of allowing an emotion without resisting it.
Why negative emotions are a part of life, and how to accept this.
The real key to change and why it’s not what you might think it is.
What can happen when you accept that life is 50:50.
The biggest problem with resisting your negative emotions.
Why emotions don’t create the experience of suffering in your life, and what does.
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Full Episode Transcript:
Hey you all, I’m Marissa McKool, and you’re listening to the Redefining Rest Podcast for public health professionals. Here we believe rest is your right. You don’t have to earn it, you just have to learn how to take it and I’m going to teach you. Ready? Come along.
Hi everyone, I’m so glad to have you here. Many of you are new listeners. Welcome. I’m excited. Today is going to be short and sweet. I am actually recording right before I’m supposed to pack and head to the airport tonight. May is full of trips, some – well, they’re all personal trips but a mix of relaxation, and fun, and more seriousness. And really the past two months I have been in the thick of living what folks in my coaching corner of the world call living a 50/50 life. And I’ll talk more about what that means in a second.
But what’s been going on for me is past couple of months have been great. I had a huge project, the redesign of this podcast, the relaunching of it, the giveaway, we worked on that for months. And it finally was launched, and it went really well. I had an amazing work trip in April that really got me motivated and inspired. My advance certification in feminist coaching is going great. My clients are kicking ass. I have been creating a lot of failures which is good, that’s what I want. I’m putting myself out there.
I’m trying new things. I’m seeing if they work, a lot of times they don’t and I’m trying to learn from that. So that’s all been going great. As I said, lots of trips, so we’re juggling that. But also, what’s been happening is I’ve been having a lot of challenges come up in my personal life. And I’m not going to share too many details mostly because it involves other people and I want to respect them and their privacy and all of that. But there have been a lot of tears on my side, a lot of tough conversations, a lot of challenging emotions, a lot of difficult thoughts, just a lot going on.
And also, at the same time I have a leak, a repair that’s needed in my condo. And because of the way our condominium is set up it means I have to coordinate with neighbors. And that’s also been challenging and all that stuff. So, this is all to say I have been feeling proud, and excited, and happy, at the same as I’ve been feeling sadness and frustration, and anger, and disappointment, and all of the emotions. And that is how life is and is supposed to be and will always be.
A lot of mentors, a lot of teachers, a lot of spiritual leaders, inspirational speakers, coaches talk about life being 50/50 in different ways, from Eckhart Tolle to Martha Beck and more. This concept I really learned and studied through my coach, Kara Loewentheil, and Brooke Castillo at The Life Coach School. And if you really study this and let yourself live into it, this one concept can completely change your life, truly. And it’s not a one and done. We have to constantly be reminding ourselves and embracing the 50/50 of life and that is the truth of life.
Half of it you’re going to feel great, and joyful, and contentment, and excited. And half of it is going to be hard and you’re going to feel sadness, and you’re going to feel frustration, and you’re going to feel shitty. We could distil it down very simply as 50% filled with ‘positive’ emotions and 50% filled with ‘negative’ emotions. It doesn’t mean it balances out evenly every day it’s 50/50, but overall, it’s 50/50. And you all have experienced this.
You’ve noticed you’ve had some months where everything seems really good and then all of a sudden it’s really challenging, and some shit comes to the surface you have to work through. Sometimes you’ve noticed that there are weeks where you get both, where great things are happening, and challenging things are happening. Sometimes it feels like in one category of your life things are going great, work, then others, it’s relationships that’s hard. Or relationships with your kids are going great but work is really hard, or money, or whatever it may be.
We want life to be perfect and happy and we know intellectually it can’t, but we still deep down emotionally believe it should. We can ‘understand’ it won’t be perfect and happy, but we can still believe it should be. And that is what creates emotional suffering, rather than knowing and understanding life isn’t perfect and isn’t happy all the time, and accepting it, not expecting it to be different, not believing it should be different. You believe that life should be a different way, that it should be different, which creates resistance.
And the resistance is what creates emotional suffering. When we live from the belief that if life can’t be perfect and happy, intellectually I know it can’t be that way all the time but then we secretly believe we should still be able to get about 80% there, 80% of the time we should be feeling good. So, we then seek to have a life where 80% of the time we’re happy, and excited, and empowered, and content, and then we’re happy, maybe not happy but we’re okay accepting feeling shitty, or sad, or angry, or frustrated, or whatever else for 20% of the time.
And if we’re really honest deep down we do believe if we do enough, if we get enough done, if we do the right things, if we’re the right person, if we’re good enough, if we make the right choices then our life will be 100% happiness. And because you have this belief even unconsciously, what happens when you feel shame, or anger, anxiety, or fear, or sadness, more than that 20% of time or whatever arbitrary percentage you believe it should be. You resist it, you avoid that emotion, you suppress it, you resist it.
And you tell yourself, this shouldn’t be happening. This needs to be different. I need to feel differently, other people need to act differently, the situation needs to be different, this shouldn’t be happening. And then on top of that your brain decides to go ahead and be mean to yourself. I shouldn’t be feeling this way. This is dumb, get over it, I can’t be upset over this. You’re creating emotional suffering for yourself. This isn’t necessary. The emotion itself is not a problem. Your resistance to the emotion is what’s creating the problem for you.
If you accept that life is designed, it is supposed to be 50/50, then there is no need to try to get out of, avoid, resist, deny, escape negative emotions. You can accept them as part of life without the emotional suffering. The emotion itself doesn’t create the experience of suffering. It is your reaction to that emotion that creates the suffering. Telling yourself it shouldn’t happening, telling yourself something is wrong with you. That is what feels so terrible.
And when you live from that place where you are resisting the negative emotion, or resisting that part of life as a human, and aiming and telling yourself you should have a life where it’s 80% joy and happiness, what happens? You actually create a life that ends up being 80% suffering, 80% of your energy, and emotion, and experience feels terrible and not because of the negative emotion but because of all the energy, and time, and effort, and mental space you are exerting to resist the negative emotion.
So many of you listening you only know what it’s like to resist negative emotion because you’ve never done it any other way. You think you have been allowing the emotion, but you haven’t, you’ve been resisting it. And you can’t imagine that allowing the emotion fully would feel any different, but it does. It feels way better than what you’ve been doing, and I know because I’ve been there.
Allowing an emotion without resisting it, it’s not sunshine and rainbows. I’m not going to lie to you. It’s uncomfortable but it’s not the emotional suffering you have been experiencing because of your mental resistance to it. The emotional suffering is not how life is supposed to be. You’re experiencing that emotional suffering because you are making it that way by resisting the emotion. When you create suffering by resisting your emotion, by avoiding it, that suffering which is unnecessary creates that experience where 80% of the time you feel terrible.
When you accept that life will always have negative emotions, there is no escape, there is no – my coach Kara Loewentheil says, “There’s no exit ramp off the experience of the human life.” Negative emotions are a part of life. When you accept that there is no need to resist it. Acceptance is the opposite of resistance. So many of you think that the key to change is resistance and if you work, or learn, or exist anywhere around or in the social justice movements of which most, if not all of you do listening and public health certainly does to some extent, you believe this.
But resistance is not the key to change, acceptance is. You think if you accept something then you won’t do anything about it, and you’ll be stuck in it. And you believe that doing something helpful and productive is being resistant, choosing to resist. No, it’s the opposite. When you accept that you feel angry, what do you do? You allow the anger to be in your body. You give yourself time to process it. You give yourself permission. You notice where it is in your body. You don’t reject it. You let it be there and that anger flows through you.
And sometimes processing it can drive helpful actions. But processing it certainly doesn’t drive unhelpful actions like resisting it does. Because when you resist anger in the example we’re using here, what do you do? You avoid it and suppress it, tell yourself you shouldn’t feel anger and then it bubbles up. And then maybe you lash out at others or you’re just grumpy all the time. Or you’re not taking helpful action, you’re shaming yourself.
And it’s the same for any other emotion, when you resist the emotion and don’t process it, it does not serve you at all. It doesn’t help you change, it doesn’t help you feel better, it creates suffering. There are areas in our life where we do see and can understand how acceptance helps us and it is required. So, here’s an example, just imagine this, maybe you might not be this person, but you can certainly imagine it.
Let’s say you love watching sports, but your partner doesn’t. Resisting the fact that your partner doesn’t love sports at all, and you’re obsessed with it would look like fighting over the TV, complaining about your partner and the fact that they don’t like sports. Arguing with them, wanting them to be different, wishing that they would want to talk to you about it, getting upset when you talk to them about it, and they don’t ask questions and they don’t listen. Trying to convince them to like sports, trying to make them watch it with you.
You know if you did this or if you can imagine a couple doing this, that that would create some suffering in their relationship. Now, if that person who really loves sports accepted that their partner didn’t, and did not try to change them, or convince them, just fully accepted it, they didn’t complain, they didn’t judge what they watched, they didn’t fight over the TV. If they wanted to watch sports, they accepted that and maybe chose to watch it on iPad, they wouldn’t get upset. They’d be okay with who they are.
And you know, you can imagine that, that would be so much better for the relationship, the absence of suffering. Sure, would that person like their partner to watch? Yeah. Would they like them to watch it and like it? Yeah. But that’s not the reality. And resisting the reality doesn’t create the result you want, it makes it worse. And it’s the same with our own emotions. Resisting your negative emotions doesn’t make them go away. It makes it harder for you to feel something different because you get stuck in it.
Accepting your negative emotions and allowing them to flow through you makes it easier for you to continue to do what you need to do with that emotion, whether it’s go to work, or pick up your kids, or do the dishes. And then it’s also easier for you to move through that so you can access a different emotion. Resisting increases the intensity and overshadows any other emotions you might have. Acceptance reduces the intensity and allows space for coexisting emotions.
When you accept that life is 50/50 you get all of your emotional power back. You get to decide with purpose what you need when you’re feeling that negative emotion and processing that, and giving that to yourself. So, for example for me lately it’s been a mix of deciding I need space, deciding when I need support from others, asking for that. Sometimes it’s looked like working on my business as planned and just allowing the emotion to come on the ride. And other times it looks like taking a few unexpected hours off, it's looked like crying, it’s looked like laughing.
It has allowed me to be fully present with what is going on in my life, not thinking about the future and how I wish things would be different then. I’m not thinking about the present moment, imagining how I think it should be. I’m not looking to the past to blame myself for what I’m experiencing. Being right here in the moment and being present, it’s about being fully present in your life, rather than resisting your life. Being fully present in the full human experience of life which is the 50/50 of emotions.
Rather than swimming in emotional suffering, there are many, many gifts of being human, one of which is getting to feel all of the emotions. That is a beautiful, beautiful gift of being human. Right now, you see half of the emotions as a curse rather than a gift and then you want to get away. It’s not a curse. There is so much beauty in fully embracing and accepting the human condition, that we get to feel ecstatic, and happy, and proud. And we get to feel sad, and disappointed, and angry.
There is beauty in all of those emotions. And when you resist your experience, you’re missing out on that beauty, what can come of that beauty. And I know if you reflect you can see how in the past, negative emotions allowing them to be a part of your life, allowing them to flow through you, allowing them to be part of your story has actually opened up amazing, beautiful opportunities. Whether you’ve become closer to someone, whether you’ve overcome something challenging and become closer to yourself.
Whether it helped you realize something and decided to set a boundary and walk away, whether it made you more appreciative of the times that you do feel good and do feel happy. And as I said in, I think it was episode two, the episode on allowing emotions. Well, you can go listen to that and get some help with the practice of it. If you live in Arizona, why do you love monsoon season? If you live in Seattle or Portland, why do you love the sunshine when it comes out? Because there is beauty in the 50/50 of life.
And the only way you can access, and see, and live into that beauty is by accepting it. So, I want you to think about where in your life right now are you resisting your emotional experience. Are you resisting the emotions you’re having, where you are wishing your experience were different, wishing someone else was different so you could feel a certain way? Wishing a circumstance was different so you could feel a certain way, wishing you were different. What emotion are you resisting? And how can you accept that emotion instead?
Notice where in your life you are believing even subtly that life should be 100% happy, that that’s the goal, or that you’re trying to get somewhere where you feel good all the time and happy all the time. Notice that. How can you accept that life is 50/50? And that’s not a bad thing. It’s a beautiful thing. Notice where you are resisting your lived experience as a human on Earth. And ask yourself how you can embrace that and accept that. And once you do I want you to notice all the amazing benefits from that, how much your experience changes without anything outside of you needing to change.
Alright you all, I hope you have a beautiful week, embrace any emotion that comes your way, allow it, process it, be with it. Love you all. Talk to you next week.
If you found this episode helpful then you have to check out my coaching program where I provide you individualized support to create a life centered around rest. Head on over to mckoolcoaching.com, that’s M-C-K-O-O-L coaching.com to learn more.
Hi everyone, I’m so glad to have you here. Many of you are new listeners. Welcome. I’m excited. Today is going to be short and sweet. I am actually recording right before I’m supposed to pack and head to the airport tonight. May is full of trips, some – well, they’re all personal trips but a mix of relaxation, and fun, and more seriousness. And really the past two months I have been in the thick of living what folks in my coaching corner of the world call living a 50/50 life. And I’ll talk more about what that means in a second.
But what’s been going on for me is past couple of months have been great. I had a huge project, the redesign of this podcast, the relaunching of it, the giveaway, we worked on that for months. And it finally was launched, and it went really well. I had an amazing work trip in April that really got me motivated and inspired. My advance certification in feminist coaching is going great. My clients are kicking ass. I have been creating a lot of failures which is good, that’s what I want. I’m putting myself out there.
I’m trying new things. I’m seeing if they work, a lot of times they don’t and I’m trying to learn from that. So that’s all been going great. As I said, lots of trips, so we’re juggling that. But also, what’s been happening is I’ve been having a lot of challenges come up in my personal life. And I’m not going to share too many details mostly because it involves other people and I want to respect them and their privacy and all of that. But there have been a lot of tears on my side, a lot of tough conversations, a lot of challenging emotions, a lot of difficult thoughts, just a lot going on.
And also, at the same time I have a leak, a repair that’s needed in my condo. And because of the way our condominium is set up it means I have to coordinate with neighbors. And that’s also been challenging and all that stuff. So, this is all to say I have been feeling proud, and excited, and happy, at the same as I’ve been feeling sadness and frustration, and anger, and disappointment, and all of the emotions. And that is how life is and is supposed to be and will always be.
A lot of mentors, a lot of teachers, a lot of spiritual leaders, inspirational speakers, coaches talk about life being 50/50 in different ways, from Eckhart Tolle to Martha Beck and more. This concept I really learned and studied through my coach, Kara Loewentheil, and Brooke Castillo at The Life Coach School. And if you really study this and let yourself live into it, this one concept can completely change your life, truly. And it’s not a one and done. We have to constantly be reminding ourselves and embracing the 50/50 of life and that is the truth of life.
Half of it you’re going to feel great, and joyful, and contentment, and excited. And half of it is going to be hard and you’re going to feel sadness, and you’re going to feel frustration, and you’re going to feel shitty. We could distil it down very simply as 50% filled with ‘positive’ emotions and 50% filled with ‘negative’ emotions. It doesn’t mean it balances out evenly every day it’s 50/50, but overall, it’s 50/50. And you all have experienced this.
You’ve noticed you’ve had some months where everything seems really good and then all of a sudden it’s really challenging, and some shit comes to the surface you have to work through. Sometimes you’ve noticed that there are weeks where you get both, where great things are happening, and challenging things are happening. Sometimes it feels like in one category of your life things are going great, work, then others, it’s relationships that’s hard. Or relationships with your kids are going great but work is really hard, or money, or whatever it may be.
We want life to be perfect and happy and we know intellectually it can’t, but we still deep down emotionally believe it should. We can ‘understand’ it won’t be perfect and happy, but we can still believe it should be. And that is what creates emotional suffering, rather than knowing and understanding life isn’t perfect and isn’t happy all the time, and accepting it, not expecting it to be different, not believing it should be different. You believe that life should be a different way, that it should be different, which creates resistance.
And the resistance is what creates emotional suffering. When we live from the belief that if life can’t be perfect and happy, intellectually I know it can’t be that way all the time but then we secretly believe we should still be able to get about 80% there, 80% of the time we should be feeling good. So, we then seek to have a life where 80% of the time we’re happy, and excited, and empowered, and content, and then we’re happy, maybe not happy but we’re okay accepting feeling shitty, or sad, or angry, or frustrated, or whatever else for 20% of the time.
And if we’re really honest deep down we do believe if we do enough, if we get enough done, if we do the right things, if we’re the right person, if we’re good enough, if we make the right choices then our life will be 100% happiness. And because you have this belief even unconsciously, what happens when you feel shame, or anger, anxiety, or fear, or sadness, more than that 20% of time or whatever arbitrary percentage you believe it should be. You resist it, you avoid that emotion, you suppress it, you resist it.
And you tell yourself, this shouldn’t be happening. This needs to be different. I need to feel differently, other people need to act differently, the situation needs to be different, this shouldn’t be happening. And then on top of that your brain decides to go ahead and be mean to yourself. I shouldn’t be feeling this way. This is dumb, get over it, I can’t be upset over this. You’re creating emotional suffering for yourself. This isn’t necessary. The emotion itself is not a problem. Your resistance to the emotion is what’s creating the problem for you.
If you accept that life is designed, it is supposed to be 50/50, then there is no need to try to get out of, avoid, resist, deny, escape negative emotions. You can accept them as part of life without the emotional suffering. The emotion itself doesn’t create the experience of suffering. It is your reaction to that emotion that creates the suffering. Telling yourself it shouldn’t happening, telling yourself something is wrong with you. That is what feels so terrible.
And when you live from that place where you are resisting the negative emotion, or resisting that part of life as a human, and aiming and telling yourself you should have a life where it’s 80% joy and happiness, what happens? You actually create a life that ends up being 80% suffering, 80% of your energy, and emotion, and experience feels terrible and not because of the negative emotion but because of all the energy, and time, and effort, and mental space you are exerting to resist the negative emotion.
So many of you listening you only know what it’s like to resist negative emotion because you’ve never done it any other way. You think you have been allowing the emotion, but you haven’t, you’ve been resisting it. And you can’t imagine that allowing the emotion fully would feel any different, but it does. It feels way better than what you’ve been doing, and I know because I’ve been there.
Allowing an emotion without resisting it, it’s not sunshine and rainbows. I’m not going to lie to you. It’s uncomfortable but it’s not the emotional suffering you have been experiencing because of your mental resistance to it. The emotional suffering is not how life is supposed to be. You’re experiencing that emotional suffering because you are making it that way by resisting the emotion. When you create suffering by resisting your emotion, by avoiding it, that suffering which is unnecessary creates that experience where 80% of the time you feel terrible.
When you accept that life will always have negative emotions, there is no escape, there is no – my coach Kara Loewentheil says, “There’s no exit ramp off the experience of the human life.” Negative emotions are a part of life. When you accept that there is no need to resist it. Acceptance is the opposite of resistance. So many of you think that the key to change is resistance and if you work, or learn, or exist anywhere around or in the social justice movements of which most, if not all of you do listening and public health certainly does to some extent, you believe this.
But resistance is not the key to change, acceptance is. You think if you accept something then you won’t do anything about it, and you’ll be stuck in it. And you believe that doing something helpful and productive is being resistant, choosing to resist. No, it’s the opposite. When you accept that you feel angry, what do you do? You allow the anger to be in your body. You give yourself time to process it. You give yourself permission. You notice where it is in your body. You don’t reject it. You let it be there and that anger flows through you.
And sometimes processing it can drive helpful actions. But processing it certainly doesn’t drive unhelpful actions like resisting it does. Because when you resist anger in the example we’re using here, what do you do? You avoid it and suppress it, tell yourself you shouldn’t feel anger and then it bubbles up. And then maybe you lash out at others or you’re just grumpy all the time. Or you’re not taking helpful action, you’re shaming yourself.
And it’s the same for any other emotion, when you resist the emotion and don’t process it, it does not serve you at all. It doesn’t help you change, it doesn’t help you feel better, it creates suffering. There are areas in our life where we do see and can understand how acceptance helps us and it is required. So, here’s an example, just imagine this, maybe you might not be this person, but you can certainly imagine it.
Let’s say you love watching sports, but your partner doesn’t. Resisting the fact that your partner doesn’t love sports at all, and you’re obsessed with it would look like fighting over the TV, complaining about your partner and the fact that they don’t like sports. Arguing with them, wanting them to be different, wishing that they would want to talk to you about it, getting upset when you talk to them about it, and they don’t ask questions and they don’t listen. Trying to convince them to like sports, trying to make them watch it with you.
You know if you did this or if you can imagine a couple doing this, that that would create some suffering in their relationship. Now, if that person who really loves sports accepted that their partner didn’t, and did not try to change them, or convince them, just fully accepted it, they didn’t complain, they didn’t judge what they watched, they didn’t fight over the TV. If they wanted to watch sports, they accepted that and maybe chose to watch it on iPad, they wouldn’t get upset. They’d be okay with who they are.
And you know, you can imagine that, that would be so much better for the relationship, the absence of suffering. Sure, would that person like their partner to watch? Yeah. Would they like them to watch it and like it? Yeah. But that’s not the reality. And resisting the reality doesn’t create the result you want, it makes it worse. And it’s the same with our own emotions. Resisting your negative emotions doesn’t make them go away. It makes it harder for you to feel something different because you get stuck in it.
Accepting your negative emotions and allowing them to flow through you makes it easier for you to continue to do what you need to do with that emotion, whether it’s go to work, or pick up your kids, or do the dishes. And then it’s also easier for you to move through that so you can access a different emotion. Resisting increases the intensity and overshadows any other emotions you might have. Acceptance reduces the intensity and allows space for coexisting emotions.
When you accept that life is 50/50 you get all of your emotional power back. You get to decide with purpose what you need when you’re feeling that negative emotion and processing that, and giving that to yourself. So, for example for me lately it’s been a mix of deciding I need space, deciding when I need support from others, asking for that. Sometimes it’s looked like working on my business as planned and just allowing the emotion to come on the ride. And other times it looks like taking a few unexpected hours off, it's looked like crying, it’s looked like laughing.
It has allowed me to be fully present with what is going on in my life, not thinking about the future and how I wish things would be different then. I’m not thinking about the present moment, imagining how I think it should be. I’m not looking to the past to blame myself for what I’m experiencing. Being right here in the moment and being present, it’s about being fully present in your life, rather than resisting your life. Being fully present in the full human experience of life which is the 50/50 of emotions.
Rather than swimming in emotional suffering, there are many, many gifts of being human, one of which is getting to feel all of the emotions. That is a beautiful, beautiful gift of being human. Right now, you see half of the emotions as a curse rather than a gift and then you want to get away. It’s not a curse. There is so much beauty in fully embracing and accepting the human condition, that we get to feel ecstatic, and happy, and proud. And we get to feel sad, and disappointed, and angry.
There is beauty in all of those emotions. And when you resist your experience, you’re missing out on that beauty, what can come of that beauty. And I know if you reflect you can see how in the past, negative emotions allowing them to be a part of your life, allowing them to flow through you, allowing them to be part of your story has actually opened up amazing, beautiful opportunities. Whether you’ve become closer to someone, whether you’ve overcome something challenging and become closer to yourself.
Whether it helped you realize something and decided to set a boundary and walk away, whether it made you more appreciative of the times that you do feel good and do feel happy. And as I said in, I think it was episode two, the episode on allowing emotions. Well, you can go listen to that and get some help with the practice of it. If you live in Arizona, why do you love monsoon season? If you live in Seattle or Portland, why do you love the sunshine when it comes out? Because there is beauty in the 50/50 of life.
And the only way you can access, and see, and live into that beauty is by accepting it. So, I want you to think about where in your life right now are you resisting your emotional experience. Are you resisting the emotions you’re having, where you are wishing your experience were different, wishing someone else was different so you could feel a certain way? Wishing a circumstance was different so you could feel a certain way, wishing you were different. What emotion are you resisting? And how can you accept that emotion instead?
Notice where in your life you are believing even subtly that life should be 100% happy, that that’s the goal, or that you’re trying to get somewhere where you feel good all the time and happy all the time. Notice that. How can you accept that life is 50/50? And that’s not a bad thing. It’s a beautiful thing. Notice where you are resisting your lived experience as a human on Earth. And ask yourself how you can embrace that and accept that. And once you do I want you to notice all the amazing benefits from that, how much your experience changes without anything outside of you needing to change.
Alright you all, I hope you have a beautiful week, embrace any emotion that comes your way, allow it, process it, be with it. Love you all. Talk to you next week.
If you found this episode helpful then you have to check out my coaching program where I provide you individualized support to create a life centered around rest. Head on over to mckoolcoaching.com, that’s M-C-K-O-O-L coaching.com to learn more.
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